I am a poly friendly and kink friendly therapist, and also welcome sex workers in my practice.I see a lot of creative people in my practice: musicians, artists and designers.
may, for example, give each other permission to bring home another person, or spend time with other people, often sexually focused, without necessarily developing a committed ongoing relationship.I think what really works better in the long run is the most banal and obvious advice you’ll ever hear. Oh sure, use the Internet as a tool to meet people of similar interests! Yeah, you’ll have to take some initiative and get your butt away from the computer and facing the scawwy outside, but trust me, it can be fun!Yahoogroups has many local polyamory discussion groups where people meet up in real life. If no local poly group exists in your area, you might want to consider starting one.Okay, either you’re single or you’ve got your primary relationship solid. All of these places have well-established polyamory communities, and I can vouch at least one or two of the people in each city are moderately sane and have been poly long enough to have grown a grain of sense . Ok Cupid and Poly Matchmaker are both poly friendly and in the interests of disclosure, I’ve met someone on a dating site before. Even so, don’t be so damn goal-oriented all the bloody time! You want to try this new and wonderful lifestyle, and let’s be frank, some hot sex would be just awfully cool. But, mostly you’re not going to find good relationships playing the numbers game on poly online boards with a relationship scattershot.You’re centered in loving each other, you’re communicating great. I don’t know about you, but I don’t live in any of those cities. You’ll probably get laid with this strategy, but if that’s mostly what you’re looking for, a sex club might be better. I’m not of the “Swinger is superior to poly” school of thought by any means.I understand that most people are monogamous and would be turned off when seeing that statement or that the person messaging them is married.