If you take notice, if you are intrigued or interested, make a date! We are talking about one afternoon or evening together, not a lifetime.And unless someone’s making arrangements for you, it’s worth spending at least a little bit of time with the person before you decide if they are worth marrying. But it’s foolish to think that the way a girl or guy acts in a group of friends is the same as how they’ll act one on one.A good set of couple friends will help your marriage progress somehow. When you feel comfortable with another couple, you’re more likely to open up to them about personal things. The more good experiences you have with another couple, the more you’ll want to do things with them! Couples who impolitely argue in front of you on a double date, leave you feeling negative towards them, and the whole date overall.You and your spouse feel more likely to share struggles and they can offer empathy and encouragement. Don’t be with couples you feel uncomfortable around or intimidated by because it might show in your demeanor the rest of the date. They are also more likely to invite you to future events you’re actually interested in, and vice versa. You also don’t get fun memories to talk about, and it makes you nervous for the next hang out.This is a good thing to do, in my opinion, because these people influence you for the better or worse, even if you think it’s not a big deal.We should not dread date night, and we shouldn’t dread seeing friends!It’s important that we think about our influence on other couples as well!Look at the five benefits I listed above and evaluate your role on double dates.
As my friend Lindsey, married and in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!Are you setting admirable examples to your couple friends and influencing them for the better?As I have thought about this, I have discovered what I can improve on with my existing couple friends.The next one did too.” Or, “Jeremy acted like they were friends but she told me later that they were hooking up on the side.” With that kind of dismal dating culture at play, let’s consider the options: First, there’s “Duggar Dating.” Duggar dating is the modern-day form of arranged marriages.I don’t have first-hand knowledge, but thanks to reality TV, I believe it appears to involve asking the woman’s dad if she is available to date, and possibly not kissing until the actual wedding.” Whether over coffee in my kitchen or on the hallowed ground of women’s small groups, I hear these murmurs constantly.