Researchers have found that wives and girlfriends often feel a loss of self-esteem in these situations.
However, comparing marital intimacy to pornography is like comparing apples to oranges.
John and Shelli certainly understood what porn was costing them.
“Accept an impossible appetite and an impossible standard, and it steals from the true beauty of what marriage is supposed to be,” John says. Who wants to grow old together in a culture where all we honor is what’s young? Pornography doesn’t teach men to serve, honor, and cherish their wives in a way that fosters romance.
Years of guilt, shame, and wasted time had finally taken its toll on John, and the emotional dam broke. “It took me by complete surprise,” she says, “I didn’t have any clue that it was even an issue.” But after the shock came the hurt.
Why would Peter Cook spend ,000 on Internet porn when he could come home to Christie Brinkley?
Why would Charlie Sheen be drawn to a digital harem, being married to Denise Richards?
The answer is that a mind trained for fantasy will find reality dull, no matter how supposedly stunning that reality is.
Many men have conditioned their brains with this “digital drug” (as Dr. Some men train their minds to be turned to viewing sex from certain camera angles.