"I knew we were going to have struggles as an interracial couple. He was willing to give up those relatives."Eventually some relatives came around and even danced at the wedding. They didn't attend the marriage ceremony, and Michael hasn't spoken to them in two years.
Things may be improving: The Meadors celebrated their first anniversary in August, and Michael's mother has invited them to spend Christmas in Mississippi with the family.
During their college days at the University of Pittsburgh, some Black male friends of Merrian Brooks, 33, would say they didn't know any Black women who were as attractive as White women."Some of the men I really respected would exclusively date White women," she says.
"It felt like confirmation of my insecurity as a dark-skinned Black woman who was single."But Brooks, a pediatrician, says she no longer cares who Black men date.
He chose to live in California because he feels the state is more accepting of interracial couples and wants his kids to grow up in a diverse environment.
America's racist history of enslaving Black people and perpetuating a stereotype that Blacks are inferior still impacts our relationships and community.
The Memphis attorney had always talked about finding the Cliff to her Clair and having brown babies for a real-life Cosby Show family.
The immediate thought for many is, With all the gorgeous, accomplished Black women available, why didn't he choose one of us?"There are some who really think that White or non-Black women are superior," Brooks says."I don't want these men anyway, because I'm not trying to be a part of somebody's intellectual development as a partner." Many of the sisters in her circle take the fact that some Black guys prefer women who don't look like their mothers personally.My struggles as a Black woman leading a legal department of a multistate corporation have just gone away? "It was almost like they treated it as if I had switched sides, and I was no longer down for the cause because I married a White guy. It's also not fair to him."Initially a few members of Michael's family were not supportive of the relationship."He told his family, "I am marrying this woman, so either you're on board or you're going to have to watch from the sidelines,"" says Meador.So it's no wonder we're thrilled for Black women who have found love—no matter the ethnicity of their partner.